Column by Rob Reuvers: Teenagers
Young people have a lot to offer, but they struggle with pressure to perform and insecurity. They deserve trust, clear boundaries, and a safe environment. In West Maas en Waal , young people West Maas en Waal actively involved, for example through the JOP and gatherings like “Puberpraat.” Together, we ensure that they are already making a difference.
At home, I’m a father to Rosanne (14) and Milan (11). At work, I’m Alderman Social Affairs. In both roles, I learn from young people every day. Sometimes in a confrontational way. Because let’s be honest: my kids hold a mirror up to me more often than I’d like. It’s pretty awkward, but also valuable. It helps us understand each other better.
What strikes me—both at home and in conversations with young people in the congregation—is just how much potential they have. They think critically, have a keen sense of what’s going on in the world, and aren’t afraid to ask questions. I admire that.
Still, I’m also worried. Being a teenager has never been easy, but these days it’s especially challenging. Pressure to perform, social media, uncertainty about the future: young people have to find their way in a world full of expectations. That creates friction. Between rules and freedom. Between letting go and holding on.
What do they need? Trust. Understanding. Boundaries. And above all, a safe environment where they’re allowed to make mistakes. That’s where we—as parents, teachers, neighbors, and as a community—can make a difference. Not just by talking about young people, but above all by listening to them.
We’re doing that West Maas en Waal in West Maas en Waal . For example, this summer we worked with young people to set up a Youth Meeting Place (JOP). It’s a place where they can get together, play sports, laugh, and just be themselves. It’s a great example of what can happen when you truly involve young people.
And there’s more. On Thursday, September 18, there will be a theater performance at the MFA De Rosmolen about teenagers and temptations. This will be followed by the annual “Puberpraat” event in Druten on Thursday, October 1. Two free evenings full of relatable stories, tips, and opportunities to connect.
Let’s keep talking to our teenagers. Especially when it’s tough. Because they’re not just the future—they’re the present, too.
Because that’s how we stay connected.
Rob Reuvers
Alderman Affairs